You may have noticed an interesting phenomenon on social media: Positive posts – focusing on accomplishments, milestones, and well-wishes – get a lot of “likes.” But posts that involve complaints or personal struggles get far fewer. You might think that people just don’t want to be exposed to negativity. And, as we’ll see, you’d be right. But there’s more to it than that.
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All thoughts are created equal… as long as they remain thoughts. It’s when they become words or actions that they become dangerous, especially if we fall into the trap of substituting polls for evidence and peer pressure for common sense. False, mean, and defamatory declarations aren’t the same as wise and true words; destructive behavior isn’t the same as constructive action.
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That’s one of the biggest problems with terms like woke: Instead of facilitating important discussions, they impede them. They work like passwords at a speakeasy. (No, I’m not old enough to remember Prohibition. I read.) If you know the password, you’re in. If you don’t, you’re viewed with suspicion and left out in the cold, judged unworthy of entry into the clique that understands the word – in this case, woke.
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If you shame people for their pain by reminding them that “other people have it worse” you’re doing just one thing: You’re dismissing that pain as unworthy of compassion. You’re minimizing their situation and, by extension, you’re minimizing them. You’re sending them a message that you don’t really care. And if you send them that message, they’ll be less likely to care about you when you find yourself going through hard times. This is where compassion goes to die.
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The #MeToo hashtag has always bothered me – not because of what it represents, but because of the specific words that were chosen.
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“Whoop that trick” is simply offensive. Being from a minority or disadvantaged culture doesn’t give you the right to joke about violence against another historically disadvantaged group. There are plenty of things to celebrate about culture, but violence and misogyny shouldn’t be among them.
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